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(from NYT- Sarah Williamson)

I recently came across an article in the New York Times about building resilience and it immediately made me think about all of my clients.  Without a doubt, it's the clients who exhibit qualities of resilience who do better both during and after their legal issue.

So, can we all learn to be more resilient, or must we be born that way?  The article, How to Build Resilience in Midlife, by Tara Parker-Pope, says we can learn by practice and choice.  First, practice optimism.  Optimism does not ignore the difficult facts you are facing, but it means that you know that you will not be defeated by them.

Second, "rewrite your story," otherwise known as re-framing.  What are you telling yourself about your situation?  Is this an opportunity for growth or a way to try something new?

Third, "don't personalize it."  This may be the hardest to do in a divorce, but even if your actions contributed to the situation, you are never the sole …

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